AGAIN! She just signed over her DPOA, of ALL of her assets, and now all checking accounts, CD's, saving accounts, etc, to a woman, that I can't stand, who said "Your Mother's Welfare, or Health Care, is none of my concern?" OMG! I don't know how much more of this insanity I can take!

I cried all Night, just like I did the first time I spoke to her (And the only other time I talked with her, So COLD!) I told her about the Black Mold, MICE, and Faulty Electrical Wiring, and had heard, she finally paid my Mom a visit, so I thought GREAT, finally, she will understand! But she decided that that house was SAFE!!! And it doesn't seem to bother....THEM??!?? (They both have Dementia, HELLO?) And she added "None of my concern" I am just in charge of ALL your Mother's money??!!?? Mom's Attorney, Tom, and both my Sisters, are on board with this?

How can they let my Mother sign, all these important Documents, she doesn't have a clue about, with stage 6 Alzheimers?

My other grandmother died the day after Christmas (not the one I'm taking care of). As my father is reviewing her trusts, will, etc, he has discovered that 10 years ago, weeks before her husband died from a long struggle with AD, they revised the will and trusts. His signature is there, although it's difficult to read, and the papers are notarized properly. There is no way he could comprehend the paperwork because he couldn't even recognize a single face at the time, couldn't feed or bathe himself, etc. Today, though, since the paperwork is properly notarized and my grandfather is dead, the lawyers say there is no possibility of disputing it. Luckily for us there were not substantial changes and it was mostly a formality to make the will conform to updated California law. It should not have been notarized, however, because he had been totally incapacitated by AD for years.

I explained that so I could say this: If you're going to fight it, do it now. There will be no disputing it after the fact.

That's exactly what I was thinking, that you should fight it right now if you think that wise. A Dr. could declare her unable to mentally understand it all if he were to see her right away. I'm so sorry Sky, watching your mother treated unfairly and badly must be so painful, AD is painful enough without all this junk you are having to go through. ~Kelly~

Oh, Sky, so sorry to hear this. Who is this woman? Could she just be SAYING your Mom's attorney and sisters are on board with this or have you talked to them? I don't mean to scare you, but it's people like THAT who can really take advantage of the elderly, especially with AD, and knowing you are not there to get in her face? Geez, this might warrant getting the police involved, if she's trying to pull the wool over your eyes and your Mama's. Are you sure there's not a letter somewhere from her doctor, declaring your Mom incompetent? Oh, boy, I sure wish there was a way we could help you. I'm so sorry you have to do all this long distance.

Sending you hugs across the miles....anyway!

Oh Sky I totally agree with everyone. Please investigate this more. Seems like someone is trying to get away with something sneaky. This makes no sense. Let us know if you find out more.

Jackie

OMG... I am in ball of tears. Turns out, she is signing all these papers, on Monday (Martin Luther King's B-Day, January 18th, 2010. ,Keep in mind she has had this disease for TWELVE Years!) I tried so hard tonight, to explain to her, how powerful this was, & asked her, who suggested it, what was happening, and all she could say was "I don't know?" Tom showed his true colors. After waiting on him hand & foot, like a servant, for two weeks, he threw me under the bus? I never met such a selfish man, and I have known a lot of them. Mom doesn't realize the care that I gave, just to HIM, for her, would have cost him $6,000.00? Not to mention the other 19 times I have taken 80 flights, to care for her. She still loves me, but doesn't have a clue what is happening, and how dangerous it all is for her. I can never talk to her without him being on the other line, but tonight I took a chance, and told her he had not made any provisions for her, and that when he dies, and she is grieving, she will have to MOVE, on the same day. This is a woman, my Mamma, that I had to repeat six times, a very simple task, over, and over, and over, again, tonight. You have all been there.

Here it is...I'm sure I will be black-listed for challenging her credibility, but I can not FAKE ANYTHING, ANY LONGER! I am done, put a fork in me!

I am going to post an E-Mail I wrote to her Attorney tonight. I know it is dangerous to post such things, on-line, but tonight I have a terrible foreboding feeling, that something will happen to one of us, soon, and I want someone, anyone, to know what happen to her.

"Hi LInda; I haven't heard hide nor hair, from Nancy C. and all she wanted was my Home Address. I thought at the very least, I would get a card, or a letter, explaining who she was, and what she is going to be doing, nothing. Also, does she not have, or can she not afford an office? You call her, at the only number listed, and there are dogs barking in the background? Not that I have anything against, dogs? So, when we last spoke (you & me) I got the impression this was a done deal, and was to take place immediately, so much so, I made two copies, of pretty personal info, and mailed them both, that day, one to Mom & Tom, and one to Nancy.

Now I find out that Nancy C. Will be there this Monday (January 18th, Martin Luther King Day) to sign all the paper work, I am assuming you will be there too? Or, so my Mother guesses? I asked my Mom if she even knew what a DPOA (Durable Power Of Attorney) meant, and tried to explain this to her, and she didn't seem to be able comprehend it? I also asked her who's idea this was, and who decided that Nancy, was the right person for the job, and she said "I don't know?" Several years ago, when we went through this process before, with Joanne, I believe you said "We have to hurry up, while her signature is still legitimate?" So, I have one question for you, as an Attorney, how do you feel about a client signing such a weighty document, that she can not even comprehend?

Also, Nancy C. Said to me, without any compassion whatsoever, about Mother's welfare, and care, & safety, that she is still not one bit interested in "Well, if it could be changed, you would have been able to do it by now." From 1,200 miles away? Not so easy? And I am not a PROFESSIONAL! I would think that a woman that was prepared to take over ever cent that my Mother ever made, saved, invested, and my Grand Mother's money frankly, would try to be just a tad bit friendlier, with her new client's family?

Concerned; N.Mc.